Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Dancing in the Rain

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...its about learning to dance in the rain" - Unknown.

Boy oh Boy have I been dancing, as the rain pours down around me.

In the almost two years that I have been married to this wonderful man, we have felt the weather change. There have been days of sunshine, and days that felt like tornadoes blew thru our lives. This last few days have been filled with that Erie calm before a storm. Have you felt that before? When two passionate, stubborn, although loving individuals collide like two storm fronts. You know its coming, you can feel the electricity in the air, and only God can stop the momentum.

The thunder clouds erupted into a full down pour yesterday, and flooded into unknown territory. In a terrifying moment we learned that we both were feeling lonely and isolated. I learned quickly the searing sting of allowing time to plan our social lives, our meals, our home, our finances, my job, and all those other little details of life just get in the way of our relationship. In one of the most open and revealing conversation we have had in a really long time, we learned that if we stopped seeking to reconcile to each other, we really will be isolated by our differences. At the end of the night I discovered that my greatest hope for my marriage is that we will get to know each other more, and grow together without the fear of being rejected by one another.

Together with the grace of God, we stood and felt the rain change us, as we began to dance in it!

Today we start a fresh day....I think I can see a rainbow!

Ryan and I from our Easter Egg Fun last weekend.


  1. It can oh so easily become a marriage of isolation. It has to be worked at every day. If we let things slip even for a day, by the end of the week, there is a gulf which requires huge efforts to bridge.

  2. Been There!

    I just read this on Nancy Wilson's blog. Head over and read the post called "Picking Up". It's solid, biblical, and timeless advice.

    Congratulations for making it to the rainbow!